Why a simple gesture of help brings at times tremendous surprise in people? I tell you why. Because we are so used to rudeness, cruelty and indifference. Anything opposite seems way too suspicious, there must be 'something else behind it all', we think.
We are afraid to ask for help, because we don't want to make it difficult to others.
We don't share our fears, because we are too concerned what others will think of us.

We forget the simple important things - bringing joy and helping each other, doubles these feelings within us.

I help someone in the store to find a breadcrumbs, other person will help me to make my choice of clothes softener based on his experience. All of us leave with a smile on our faces. Especially on those who helped :)
Let's be more human and do little things to each other. Every day. Even if it's just a smile. Even if it's just an eye-contact on a street.

Let's be more human!

Timing is a bitch.
We meet the right person at the wrong time.

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Aristotle said "Knowing Yourself is the beginning of all Wisdom".

Of course we think we know ourselves. Yet many times the struggle to understand why we feel in a certain way. Why we get upset time by time. Why do we create pointless problems in our mind and bring ourselves down.
Maybe, just maybe we don't want to admit that there is something we're not comfortable with within ourselves. Or perhaps we're too lazy to dig deeper.
To see what's wrong in other peoples lives is so much easier, and we are so comfortable to judge them. But if we'd just focus on our own incompleteness and imperfections, we wouldn't have time to see anybody's else business.
We think we know it all and therefore do not even try to make sure it's true.
Do you know what are your deepest needs? And how to meet them?
Do you know what motivates you to take an action? If not, why?

Simple questions so hard to find an answer to.

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Time by time we all need to do a self-reflection. On a good times we often forget to do it and when downhill arrives – we are desperate to understand incomprehensible. And fall into the darkness of our own emotions. We try to justify everything just to feel better, forgetting to be honest with ourselves. To admit that we actually did not do so well.

Most importantly is to have will to change. Yourself. To live in piece and calmness. With YOURSELF. Not escaping all the troubles, but facing them instead.

Last year have been emotionally challenging. I left a relationship that was not right for me, that did not satisfy me to it's full potential. On other hand, I found something I've been looking for, someone I felt complete with. Connected. Someone that made me smile even when apart.

Was I ready for it at that time? I failed on doing full self-reflection back then. I failed giving myself a time to calm my feelings, to stay with myself. I fell in love and enjoyed it so much. So much that I was afraid to lose it. I forgot to stop and relax. Being alone (not lonely) suddenly was something I didn't expect and haven't experienced for some time. I got too scared to do something wrong, to lose something I desired to have.

My emotions could easily get the control over my head. I was so scared to lose something just found, that I lost the most important - a part of myself. I lost it in fear and I didn't want to admit it. Well, I didn't think it's true. I didn't think about it carefully. I ignored the signs my own body was sending to my blind mind.

When a good times come we often forget to stop for a while and listen to ourselves. We forget that if there is no inner piece and calmness within our mind, we can not make others around us happy. We need to be happy alone, as individual. Then it's easy – good vibes will shine and attract the right people.

It's hard to let something go, wise people do it for their own good and many times for us. Even if it doesn't look like it at first. But then we need to stop and reflect, understand and accept.

That's the hardest part. Or – the hardest first step. After, we find a way to fix it. We find so many beautiful things about ourselves. One day this all can be shared. For now small victories shell not cutoff continuous work and way to well-being.

I'm thankful for all have happened to me lately. It brought me to myself. I wish strength to all people around the world to find some time for healthy self-reflection and falling in love with themselves at first.


"We learn most not from all of the things that go right. We learn most when everything goes wrong." S.Sinek.

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When the difficult time come over, it's hard to accept the reality. But it is the first, the most important step towards happiness and well-being. It is the most important thing for You to keep on going and working on things you want to improve. Accept the reality.
It is OK to deny the harsh truth at first, it is OK to feel frustrated, to feel hurt and broken. But not for too long! Wake up in the morning and instead of reminding yourself how unhappy you are and what a terrible things have happened to you, wake up with determination, with something to look forward to.
I choose yoga in the morning. For me it will be the first thing to be looking forward as soon as I opened my eyes. I won't be telling you, that you won't be having negative thoughts, you will and you will be upset and feel down again. But if you stop it at the very beginning and focus on a good thing, negativeness won't have any chance! Wake up with an aim to do something good for yourself.
The fight might be difficult for some of us, might be easier for others. Depends how much we want to move forward or stay in our own pain and unhappiness. Negativity has so much more power than positivity at first. We need to find a strength to make it smaller. It requires a lot of work, a lot of self-discipline.
Don't hurry though, changes won't come over the night, practice patience all along the way.
Also, there will be times when everything looks nice and positive, don't truly believe these moments (especially in the beginning), change of moods and fight between the good in you and the bad in you will take some rounds. Give it some time. Give yourself a chance. And don't give up!

Ask yourself why you want to do what you want to do and where it might bring you or what is benefit of doing it.

And have good people around you that accept you for who you are.

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we all are burn happy. this is the gift we all are given. 

while life progresses our happiness fades somehow. 

well, this is what we think. it fades. 

in fact we are the ones that erase it. we find 1001 ways to be unhappy instead. 

the most important is to recognize what is going on with us. to face the enemy - our own feelings. 

once they are recognized and found, we need to find out the reason they came at all.

after all - long and hard part will follow - getting rid of these destructive emotions. and - not letting them come back. 

being happy is the best gift we could get. keeping it is the most powerful weapon. 

if we aren't happy on our own, how can we claim others to be happy with us?

Never give up your dreams and work as hard as it's needed to get them. They are yours and only you can fight for them.